09 March 2019 Posted By : Kristine Fellizar

7 Signs You May Be Forcing Your Relationship To Develop Faster Than It’s Ready For

When you're excited about someone you just started dating, it's easy to get ahead of yourself and start projecting into the future. But whether you realize it or not, thinking about the potential of what things could be will affect how you act in the present. For instance, when you're so focused on becoming "exclusive," you may start doing things that ensure you and your partner get there as soon as possible. But according to experts, that can be a big problem. There are a lot of things that can go wrong when you force your relationship to move faster than it's ready for.

"Every couple’s relationship metrics are different," Candice Smith, relationship expert and co-founder of The KinkKit, tells Bustle. For instance, commitment comes easily and early on for some. While others like to take things slow. There's no right or wrong way to go about it. As long as you're both comfortable with the pacing of your relationship, you're good.

But if you rush a relationship, Smith says it will have negative effects on both partners. More often than not, this won't lead to the type of relationship that you actually want. In fact, here are some things that can happen when you force your relationship to develop much faster than it's ready for, according to experts.

1 Texting And Staying In Constant Contact Will Become A Need

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At the beginning of a relationship, it's common to want constant contact throughout the day. But when this want becomes a need, Mackenzie Riel, relationship expert for TooTimid, tells Bustle, it can easily become overkill. "Too much too soon can cause you both to get sick of eachother; plain and simple," she says. "Way too much exposure to each other early on can become suffocating. There's a chance this will get very old."

2 Your Partner Will Never Gets To Know Your True Self

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When you're aiming for commitment, it's easy to push aside your thoughts and feelings for the good of the relationship. In turn, your partner will never get to know the real you. Instead, they'll start falling for this version of yourself that you're portraying. According to Riel, this can't last forever. "Eventually the truth is going to come out," she says.

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